—J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone
Message from Dr. B. (Linda Paulk Buchanan):
When I was younger, I used to say, “I wish” quite frequently. I would say things like, “I wish I could go to Hawaii,” “I wish I had a boat,” “I wish it weren't raining,” etc. I finally noticed that whenever I was wishing for something, my mood was sad. I began to notice how often I said it, and I’m embarrassed to say that it was a lot. It seemed that I had gotten into the habit of saying, “I wish...” The fact was that I had plenty, but I wasn't in the habit of saying, “I’m glad that I have my car” or “this friend,” etc. It’s not that I wasn't, I just wasn't in the habit of pointing it out to myself as much as I was in the habit of pointing out what I wish I had. Every time you notice yourself saying, “I wish…” see if you can follow it with “I'm glad...” and then notice what happens to your mood.