— Erica Jong
Message from Dr. B. (Linda Paulk Buchanan): We often feel ambivalent. Just consider all the phrases used for ambivalence: Of two minds, I’m torn, it’s a dilemma, the jury’s still out, waffling, it’s debatable, vacillating, wavering, having a foot in both camps, hem and haw, it’s a quandary, sitting on the fence, in limbo, wishy-washy. It’s obviously a normal human condition. I love the scenes from Fiddler on the Roof where Tevye expresses his ambivalence while talking with God by saying, “On the one hand … but on the other hand…” In one famous scene he says it about six times (of course we don’t have that many hands). In frustration, he yells, “No! There is no other hand!”
Ambivalence is a normal human experience that can exist due to our ability to see an event from many angles. However, we can get stuck when we don't know how to resolve it. Procrastination can be a signal that we are experiencing ambivalence. Start by asking yourself if there is wisdom on each side of the dilemma. Often times the way to move forward is by finding a path that incorporates aspects of both sides.