"It is easier to believe a lie that you have heard a thousand times, than the truth that you have only heard once.” ~ Author unknown
Message from Dr. B: This is true based on the way that our brain functions. Every time you repeat a thought, the neural pathway is strengthened — new thoughts have very weak pathways. So if you assumed that you weren't lovable because your dad left when you were four, you've probably told yourself this lie hundreds of times in many different ways. This explains why we go on believing a lie about ourselves even in the face of overwhelming evidence to the contrary. The only way to begin to change your belief is to constantly tell yourself the new truth in spite of not believing it. So often people don't persist in this effort because the thought doesn't feel true. Don't give up, with enough time repetition and your brain will have to start accommodating the new thought!