Message from Dr. B. (Linda Paulk Buchanan): I love this song because it’s a good reminder to focus mindfully. Many people have a hard time focusing inward on their own experiences because they are distracted by what others are thinking. Sensitive people are often more focused on pleasing others, taking care of others, and avoid making mistakes which often distract them from their own thoughts, feelings, and sensations in the moment. The paradox here though, is that to truly be present with someone, you must first be present with yourself. For example if I worry that people won’t approve of me, I might monopolize the conversation and not notice that I'm doing this, or conversely, I might be quiet and preoccupied with fear of criticism or rejection. You may also not even realize that you aren’t living in accordance with your own values. If you see yourself in this description to some extent, remember “only you can feel the rain, no one else can feel it for you.” You’re the only one actually living your life.
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